ALL LEARNING IS EMOTIONAL: WE ONLY LEARN IF SOMETHING FEELS IMPORTANT. THE EMOTION COMES BEFORE THOUGHT.: WE FEEL BEFORE WE THINK. VERBAL, EMOTIONAL ABUSE, PUT DOWNS, LET DOWNS AS WELL AS SHUT DOWNS, INTERFERE WITH OUR WORKING MEMORY. WHEN WE PERCEIVE A THREAT, OUR EMOTIONAL CENTERS "HIGHJACKS "OUR HIGHER CENTERS AND DECREASE OUR WORKING MEMORY FROM APPROX. 7 BYTES TO APPROXIMALY 1-2 BYTES. IN OTHER WORDS, "WE CAN NOT THINK STRAIGHT!" THIS AMYGDALA HIJACK IS SO DAMAGING; WE ARE TAKEN TO A PLACE WE DO NOT WANT TO GO, AGAINST OUR WILL. REMEMBER: PLSed: Put-down, Let down, Shut down as well as HALTed state: Hungry, Angry, Lonely and Tired. We all have a strong response under the above listed conditions. Pay attention to your body sensations and breathe during stressful events before giving a response! |